A review on
how to win friends and influence people –
Introduction -
On an everyday basis we want everybody to work according to
our way or we want them to improve and help themselves or we wish to guide them
in our way. But sometimes even we are unable to work according the way we wish
to and this books really helps you to understand this to a deeper level. It can
be used as a tool in order to learn and apply the principles regarding handling
your social life. This is a very useful book for teachers ,entrapraneurs ,public
speakers and anybody who want to build a good relationship and want to change
the other’s mind.
How to use this book? -
According to me any book that you read with a self improvement
motivation is should not be read like a novel (30-50 pages per day) rather it
should be read as a workbook (1 chapter a day). Talking particularly about this
book, it should be read like reading a chapter and start applying the
principal, like we used to do during our school days learning addition and
practicing some examples based on that just get the clear concepts practically.
One could not master all the techniques in a reading but surely I can say that
you will not be the same person you were before if you read this book with concentration
and thorough understanding.
A general take-away from my side –
After reading the book I have realized that this book gave me
a deeper understanding that nobody is going to change not even we ourselves
unless and until they decide themselves to change. Means if you really want to
change others, influence others you need to work on your habits. Some things to
be listed are -
1.
Complaints,
criticism, orders won’t change the person rather an advice may work.
2.
If
you want people to love you give a genuine appreciation, talk in terms of their
interests, make them feel that they are important to you.
3.
Do
whatever it takes in order to make them feel that they are superior, your there
for their welfare and be honest with your good intentions.
4.
Before
talking about anyone’s mistake don’t forget about what they have done good and
let them know that knowing this also you are telling them their mistake.
5.
Rather
than looking for the flaws in any person see what are their powers and try to
give them a genuine appreciation and encouragement for their work.
6.
To
summarize be good to others and it will come to you.
Comments
Post a Comment